Most of us have some type of emotional hole inside of us. Let’s call it your Gremlin. Your Gremlin could be loneliness, fear, lack of direction, regret, anger, jealousy or many others. The Gremlin cries out a lot. So what do we do? We feed it. And what do we feed it? That depends, but usually things like food, alcohol, drugs, nicotine, caffeine, T.V., uncontrolled emotional outbursts, and all other manner of pleasurable avoidance activities.

The Problem

Feeding your Gremlin is more like sweeping dust under a rug than like filling up a hole. The Gremlin can eat and eat, but it manifests in you as a dust pile under a rug that gets bigger and bigger until suddenly you have a bulging belly, an unhealthy addiction, or a wasteland of unrealized dreams. We think that by soothing ourselves with pleasure that we’ll feel better. But too much of a good thing is not good, and so we find ourselves drowning ourselves in things that used to be pleasurable. The only way that you can appreciate pleasurable things is when they are balanced out with good constructive hard work. So what’s the answer? What should you do instead of feeding your Gremlin?

The Solution

Get to know your Gremlin. Instead of feeding your Gremlin non-stop, take some time to be with and understand your Gremlin. Tame him and you won’t have to feed him anymore. This difficult time will be time well-spent. You’ll be better able to enjoy the healthy pleasures of life afterwards. Ask these questions:

  1. When do I feed my Gremlin?
  2. What do I feed it?
  3. Why do I feed it that?
  4. What is it that my Gremlin (I) really need instead?
  5. What is it that I want?
  6. How can I make that happen?
  7. What small steps can I take today?
  8. Who can I call upon to help me?
  9. What can I eliminate or cut back on that will free up some time?

Put together a plan and take action on it. Get busy doing some work that will bring you true contentment. Read this article to get more energy for tackling your plan. Once you’ve begun and put in some good work, then you can then celebrate and actually enjoy some pleasurable time.

Additional Resources:

Taming Your Gremlin (Revised Edition): A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way

Taming Your Gremlin (Revised Edition): A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way
- Great book on this topic! I highly recommend it. It will open your eyes to seeing your life like never before!

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  1. 1
    November 20th, 2007 at 2:56 am

    Hi Sully

    I decided to check out your website when I saw that it was also listed on Priscilla Palmer’s Personal Development List. And am I really glad I did. In addition, I’m liking what I see on your site so I’ve also subscribed to receive more of such articles.

    Anyway, I truly agree with you that we must clearly identify and counter our limiting beliefs/thoughts/negative emotions or Gremlins, as you call them. I dub them as Inner Monsters but Gremlins seem so much more cooler.

    I also like the way you use Socratic questions to help your readers approach and overcome the problem more systematically. I personally use Socratic or Meta (as I call them, sorry just had to introduce this word as I really like the sound of it)questions to find solutions to any problems.

    I will also like to recommend that one uses the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Sedona Method in addition to Socratic/Meta Questionsto counter one’s Gremlins. Both methods are simple & easy to utilise and what’s more they are absolutely free.

    All right then, once again, great article. I’ll be back to check out your website soon so I sincerely hope to see more of your work.

    Best Regards


  2. 2
    November 22nd, 2007 at 10:40 am

    heh. Nice. Keep up the good blogging.

  3. 3
    November 22nd, 2007 at 5:37 pm

    I live with a frightening goblin, that is my loneliness. I’m trying, little by little, to avoid feeding him, but it’s really hard, because I’m too shy. I really hope to defeat him, one day or another.

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    Christine O'Kelly
    November 23rd, 2007 at 12:36 pm

    Thank you so much for this post – it is excellent! I love your 9 solutions – they are all extremely valuable and useful. I’m planning on making some big changes this year and this list can be a great springboard to how I organize my days and my goals and action plan. Count me in as your newest subscriber!


  5. 5
    November 25th, 2007 at 12:35 am

    Your ‘Gremlin’ is your egotism. Our vanity makes us fret. We want things that are not in line with our true destiny.

    Get in touch with your conscience, and you’ll be fine!

  6. 6
    Bessie Johns
    November 30th, 2007 at 11:39 am

    I really don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a Gremlin, if we are honest. I really liked your list and the idea that we feed our gremlin. Something to think about.

  7. 7
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    December 19th, 2007 at 12:21 am

    Great Post! I agree with you that we must clearly identify and counter our limiting beliefs/thoughts/negative emotions. By reading this I think everyone can feel healthy.

  8. 8
    EFT Techniques-Fan
    March 1st, 2008 at 10:23 am

    I agree with the earlier comment about using EFT techniques, they’ve made a positive impact in my life as well as many friends. Thanks for this post! Mike

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    Jane Massengill
    July 21st, 2008 at 11:31 pm

    Taming our gremlins is a life long gift that we use repeatedly, with a sense of control, in every facet of life, with increasing competence and creativity. The more a person does it, the better he becomes. Please attend the free teleconference call with Jane Massengill on Thursday, 31st July 6pm Pacific Time and learn more about taming your gremlin.

  10. 11
    May 1st, 2011 at 9:29 am

    You’ve hit the ball out the park! Incierdble!

  11. 12
    July 4th, 2011 at 9:40 am

    Thanks Lawanda!


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