I could ask you if you ever suffer from some type of anxiety, but that would be like asking do you ever breathe.
It’s part of the human condition to have anxiety. It’s actually part of the animal life to have anxiety. It’s a survival feature.
But for us humans in modern life, we can sometimes take this to extremes experiencing anxiety in all sorts of situations – sometimes consciously (going for a job interview) and a lot of the time unconsciously (like being in an elevator with strangers).
Anxiety is normal, but we make it detrimental by the labels we use, the meaning we assign to things and situations, and the stories we tell ourselves about our life.
As an example:
If I have an ache somewhere in my body, it can be seen as good, neutral, or bad all depending on the meaning I assign to that sensation.
Do I see it as my body doing the job of healing, say a bruise – “good job body!”
Do I see it as I would a fly – just a mild nuisance to be ignored.
Or do I see it as something mysteriously sinister with eventual catastrophic consequences. “What if it’s some dread disease (insert the latest horrible one you’ve heard a story of recently) and I will eventually die from it??!! Ahh”
Sometimes we actually do have a disease. When this happens we often slip into thinking of it as a fixed thing. But the truth is that our bodies are forever in a state of change, evolving, repairing, healing. Whatever disease we have is part of a large pattern in our body and mind. It takes maintaining to keep it as it is. But it is always possible for the pattern to be changed and for you to experience a different level of health.
There is nothing that is so fixed that it won’t change over time. (Even mountains crumble away and continents move over time) This also includes other aspects of your life beyond health – relationships, state of mind, quality of life experiences, career, etc.
Some things can take a fair amount of time to change, but it’s never too late to change your patterns.
Here’s how to begin to change your patterns and change your life.
What Do You Want to Be True?
We often get overly focused on what’s wrong. We think about it incessantly. In terms of stories, when we do this our problems become our main story. Our stories create our reality. Yes there are circumstances, people and life that intersect with that, but your story is very important to your life experience.
So the first step is to ask yourself:
“What do I want to be true?”
Write it down without any censorship as to what is realistic. And ask the follow up questions of
“What does that give me?”
Write these things down. Five minutes may be all it takes, but more time on it is fine.
Write Your New Story
Now that you know what you want, start telling yourself that story in the present tense as if you have it already.
Tell yourself this story for at least 5-10 minutes upon waking and again before sleep. If you meditate, do it then as well. And if you think of it any other time of day, repeat that story again and again.
You may feel ridiculous. You may think “I don’t believe this.” You may think it’s pointless and doesn’t work.
I can tell you firsthand that it does work. It is remarkably effective.
What do you have to lose?
Insurance to Make Your Story Work
Before you judge whether it worked for you, give it a full 30 days of dedicated practice.
Write how you feel on day one and then on day 30.
Once you see how well this works you will want to add other things to your story.
- Be patient with yourself.
- Fake it til you make it.
- Repetition is your friend.
- Adding positive emotion such as joy, laughter, lightness, peacefulness, enthusiasm will turbo-boost your results.
- Some results take longer to manifest, but the fact that life is a constant state of flux is your proof that anything can be changed.
- Enjoy life as you go. Happiness is the magic ingredient to health and success. (And if you need to, remember tip #2 – Fake it til you make it!)
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