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How Can I Teach My Child to Be a Good and Happy Person?

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Probably the best way is through modeling the things you want them to learn. The second best way is through repetition of your message. But if your actions don’t match your words, children will follow your actions before they follow your words.

How do I know this? By watching my 4 year old son. I see him mirror me all the time. I love when I see him mirroring being polite, showing kindness, and thinking through problems. When I see him mirror bad things like getting overly frustrated or getting more angry than is necessary, that’s when I really take notice and say to myself, “Hey get yourself in check, Mom! He’s copying YOU!”

So when this happened the other night, it made me want to document all the things I want to teach my son. I’m sharing it with you here, not to say that this is the best list for you to follow too, but rather to spur you to come up with your own list. And even if you don’t have children, this is applicable for grandchildren, and really for anyone with whom you spend a lot of time. Be the person you want others to be and maybe they will begin to follow your lead in some small way.

What I Want to Teach My Child

1. Kindness.

2. Love. Love is always the answer.

3. Consideration of Others.

4. Patience. With others and with ourself.

5. Be Very Slow to Anger
. Find ways to understand the root cause of anger when it happens so that it is a growing experience and a not a damaging one.

6. Gratitude. Every day reflect on the gifts we are blessed with both big and small.

7. Perspective. Being able to take a step back, see the really big world picture, and realize that things aren’t so bad.

8. Be a Thinker. This is true smarts, taking things you learn in life and combining them with other things to discover new ideas and solutions.

9. Respect Authority, but also Be a Leader.

10. Respect Others.

11. Frugality and Saving. This is the simple way to become rich in life. Live within your means and don’t buy things you don’t need.

12. Charity. Both in material things and in spirit.

13. When Difficulties Arise, Go Slow.

14. Live in the Moment. Don’t always be in a rush. Work hard, yes. But, also take time to enjoy life. Find the balance between work and play.

15. Hard Work Doing Something You Love is Good for You. But always remember to take your rest and enjoy life too.

16. Stay Physically Active Everyday to Stay Healthy
. Take good care of your youthful flexibility, both in body and mind. It is what will keep you young.

17. Eat Healthy.

18. Be a Good to the Earth.

19. Find Support from God.

20. When You’re Struggling, Ask for Help. Never feel that you are burdening someone. And and ye shall receive. It really is that simple.

21. Always Be Learning.

22. Failure is Your Friend.

23. Family is Important. Always find a way to work things out.

24. Your Time is the Greatest Gift You Can Give.

25. Enjoy Creativity Often

26. Smile a Lot Every Day.

27. Leave the Judging to God. Try not to judge others or yourself. Be kind. If other people are difficult, know that they are probably in some pain. Have compassion for that.

28. Be Honest. Even when it is difficult.

29. Look for the Good in the World and In People. You always find what you are looking for so look for the good.

30. Choose Happiness. The basic choice in life is to be happy or not, so why not choose being happy? What have you got to lose?

…To be continued. I may think of more. If I do, I will share them with you.

In the meantime, my plan is to print out this list and keep it handy to remember who I want to be to teach my son to be a good and happy person.

If this list is helpful to you, please pass it along to your friends. Wishing you happiness and goodness.

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What are the things you want to teach your children? All comments big and small are very welcomed!

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11 Responses to How Can I Teach My Child to Be a Good and Happy Person?

  1. Matt on holiday January 9, 2008 at 6:20 pm #

    Well I guess the training all starts out at home if your child constantly gets up from the chair when eating correct that. Remember if the child doesn’t do it at home he won’t do it at the restaurant. Alot of parents are confussd thinking that just because the child is at home he should act a little looser but in reality “NO” manners should be applied at all times.

  2. Gentle Giant January 10, 2008 at 5:19 pm #

    This is useful advice for today’s parents. I particularly agree with what Matt says above.

  3. Good Parenting January 12, 2008 at 2:16 am #

    The post has covered all good virtues. Parents need to set themselves as examples.

  4. John Hunter January 12, 2008 at 5:38 pm #

    Great list. I also think it is very important for people to be confident. Without a sense of confidence many people seem to get buffeted by whatever the whims of those around them think. And attempting to gain satisfaction through others approval just doesn’t seem like the best formula for success. Here is an interesting story on the science of happiness:

  5. Loskas June 5, 2008 at 6:20 am #

    I believe that the best way to teach your kid those things is to be a good and happy person yourself. Kids, specially young ones watch how their parents act.

  6. agentsully June 7, 2008 at 5:15 pm #

    @Loskas -Thank you for all your comments. I totally agree with you. Do you have kids yet?

  7. controll45 June 27, 2009 at 12:22 am #

    Wow this is really a great post. And the advice is very useful. Especially for parents. Thank you for you advice.

  8. Gadget Mix February 4, 2010 at 6:32 am #

    I believe the point 19 which says “Find Support from God” should be ranked others. Praying to God everyday, at least twice a day brings a lot of peace to ones mind. After praying, I feel very pure and a nice person.

    Same for the point 27

    Tommy Lawson

  9. SenseiMattKlein June 18, 2010 at 6:37 pm #

    There is so much wisdom in this post. Every parent should read it. Thanks.

    • AgentSully August 22, 2010 at 8:15 pm #

      Thanks Sensei Matt!

  10. rlp September 30, 2011 at 6:14 pm #

    visit my blog, i have shared some of my advice to raising a happy child. you don’t have to be perfect, just relax and do small little things through out the day to make your child feel special.

  11. jackie cornelio. phillipines June 20, 2013 at 4:15 am #

    well, i agree what the statement says…..every mother wants there child to be happy….and this meaning full advice can help as so that our children grow up with confident and he/she knows how to respect and be respected us well. thank you and god bless

    • lifesul0 June 20, 2013 at 11:11 am #

      Thank you Jackie

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