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The Secret Law of Attraction and Relationships

The Law of Attraction Can Help Your Relationship

Are you frustrated with one or more of your relationships in your life? Do you find yourself continually frustrated? Do you want to have a better relationship with your mate, your parent, your child, your coworker? The good news is if you want to improve your relationships, The Law of Attraction can help you.

What Is The Secret Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction states that what ever your mind envisions will be attracted into your life. Thoughts become things. Thoughts have a frequency that can be high or low. And the higher the frequency or vibration energy you have around that vision, the stronger it will be attracted into your life. It doesn’t matter if the energy is positive or negative. What matters is the strength of that energy.

couch potatoThought Vibration in Action

Here are a couple examples, one positive and one negative, but both with high energy.

Negative Energy Example: Suzy-Q keeps thinking about her husband “I hate how John overeats and never gets off the couch.” In her mind she hold a picture of her overweight husband on the couch eating. And as she sees this picture in her mind, she feels a lot of anger and resentment. John has felt the anger and resentment, and their relationship has suffered.What result does Suzy-Q keep manifesting? Yep, you got it. John sitting on the couch eating and gaining more weight. The Law of Attraction has been at work in her relationship, but she hasn’t used it to her benefit.

Positive Energy Example:  Paul has spent years judging his wife Amy, much the same way as Suzy-Q has judged her husband John, with similar results. But Paul is ready to use The Law of Attraction to benefit his relationship, so he tries a new approach. Paul starts with gratitude. He thinks about what he appreciates in his wife. She is kind. She cooks great meals. She cares for him when he is sick. Paul is proud of her intellectual capabilities. They share an interest in current events and like to discuss them.

Replacing the Negatives: Paul starts replacing his old negative thoughts with positive thoughts about Amy. Paul begins to thank Amy for everything she does. Paul compliments her on her skills and best qualities. He tells her he loves her.

A Change Begins: Amy starts to feel good about herself. She starts to feel warmth and love for Paul again, where before she felt ashamed and depressed. Now when Paul asks Amy to join him on his evening walk, she wants to go. She wants to be with Paul. She wants to look better for Paul. Their relationship is strengthened and Amy becomes a little healthier over time from walking and eating better because she feels better about herself. A couple during Sunset - Love is in the air!

Improved Relationship: Paul and Amy’s relationship improves because Paul made a conscious decision to envision a better relationship. He focused on gratitude and took action on making the positive changes that he could control. By taking his emotional energy away from the negatives and placing that emotional energy on the things that were positive he was able to improve the quality of his relationship.

How to Use The Law of Attraction to Improve Your Relationship

  1. Decide that you want a better relationship. This is not the same as deciding you want to change the other person.
  2. What are your current thought patterns and pictures you hold in your mind regarding your relationship?
  3. What do you appreciate in the other person? What are their strenghts, skills, and other qualities that you like?
  4. Begin to think about those more positive qualities and do it with strong emotion.
  5. What action can YOU take that will improve this relationship? (showing gratitude-how?, being kind, finding humor, loving unconditionally, compromising more)
  6. Begin to take action.
  7. Journal your results.
  8. Create a plan that will keep you on course for the long term. Set up ways to remember. (plan in your calendar, set alarm on your PDA, wear a rubber band around wrist, whatever works)
  9. Stick with it. However long it took for your relationship to get “bad” allow at least that much time to make it “good” again. Take it slow. Recognize progress no matter how slow, and pretty soon you’ll see great results multipy.


It’s not easy, but it’s not hard either. Even if you stick with your old patterns, you are using energy to do that. You’ve got nothing to lose by shifting that energy in a positive direction, using The Law of Attraction to improve your relationship. If you want change, this is the most powerful way to make it happen. Take your time and enjoy.

Resources for Further Reading and Viewing


Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting of More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t Want

The Secret

Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World & Your Invisible Power (2 Books in 1)


The Secret (Extended Edition)

What the Bleep Do We Know!?


The Law of Attraction Pro


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17 Responses to The Secret Law of Attraction and Relationships

  1. Chris June 15, 2007 at 5:32 pm #

    Good advice on how to use the law of attraction for relationships.

    The Secret Law of Attraction

  2. agentsully June 24, 2007 at 3:59 pm #

    Thanks Chris!

  3. The Secret Gathering January 4, 2008 at 9:33 am #

    Very interesting!

  4. law of attraction guru February 26, 2008 at 2:49 am #

    That’s good advice to concentrate on the good aspects of the relationship . It makes it easier to work on the not so easy parts when you appreciate your partners better qualities.

  5. nivas March 15, 2008 at 2:50 pm #

    i am very glad to know about the law of attraction ,up to now i didn’t even know this one.thanx for your information.

  6. john April 16, 2008 at 1:16 pm #

    In so many things, physical, mental, and emotional, we usually end up where our attention is.

    It’s easiest to see in the physical sense.

    When watching kids play soccer have you ever wonder why they are so good at kicking the ball right at the goalie?

    I think that it’s because they are thinking about how they have to get it past the goalie and they are looking at the goalie to do this and, guess what? It goes right into the goalie’s arms. They place they should be looking is at an empty part of the goal and not at the goalie at all.

    Same with relationships. Every time I focus on what I DON’T want, there goes my attention to that. Still, it amazes me how hard it is to get off what’s wrong and focus on what I want.

    Your list of suggestions is a great help in my own quest for the better relationship. Thanks.

  7. The Law of Attraction April 16, 2008 at 6:47 pm #

    Really good points on how the Law of Attraction effects our relationships. Namaste!

  8. agentsully April 25, 2008 at 4:33 pm #

    @John – thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!

  9. law of attraction March 3, 2009 at 5:11 am #

    Here john have given very good example, am knowing the children nature but not that much as you. this have made me to focus only one one think. But doing so my relations are not getting that much good as it should be..!

    so i now focus on 8th point to plan every thing I need to do…. right..!!!

  10. Indigo Papers November 9, 2010 at 2:28 am #

    Powerful stuff! Keep up the great Law Of Attraction work.

  11. 11 Forgotten Laws January 29, 2011 at 5:49 am #

    Some of you out there have seen the zany film, “Cats and Dogs.” It is perfect for a lot of laughs over stylized antics in the classic war of “cat vs dog” if you are in the mood for something completely silly and off the wall.

  12. Chris May 21, 2013 at 8:45 pm #

    Hi great article I like the use of the positive and negative examples looking at how to attract the right relationship to you with the law of attraction I think this will be really helpful for your readers. Keep up the good work

    • AgentSully May 26, 2013 at 4:48 pm #

      Thanks Chris! What’s your favorite way to manifest?

  13. Brar1993 October 10, 2016 at 2:40 am #

    I am in a relationship with the one i love….he is vry wonderful and makes me feel secure when he z around….i want to marry him but my family is not supporting me…what should i do plz help….

  14. Raise frequency April 11, 2017 at 6:35 pm #

    Most of us apply it on reverse. During the dating period of infatuation, we tend to focus on the positive qualities of our love partner then when we marry we tend to discover the negative qualities of our life partner. Thank you for the Law of Attraction relationship steps on how to improve an existing romantic partnership


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