Who says we can only love certain parts of our body?
Who says I can love some parts of my body because they are soft and giggly, but I shouldn’t love other parts because they are soft and giggly?
Who says I can only love parts of my body if they are skinny, flat, round, or muscular?
Who says I am too skinny, too voluptuous, too muscular, not muscular enough?
Who says I must have a certain face, certain skills, certain possessions to be allowed to experience happiness on a daily basis, on a moment by moment basis?
Who says I can only love myself when I achieve perfection, when I have no sins, when I operate at peak productive deficiency?
Who made these rules? And why do we subscribe to them?
Why do we allow them to dictate whether we’re happy or sad, feel good or bad about ourselves?
I cant think of any good reason. Can you?
Ultimately even if society made these rules, we each have the control to make our own rules.
I do know this: Life is short. We never know when our time might be up.
People who are faced with their own death usually realize with crystal clarity that rules that stifle our happiness are ridiculous and silly.
So why wait for the end of your life to realize that you wasted so much time worrying about your appearance or perfection in any area of your life? Why not decide today to love yourself and be happy. When you do this you are better able to love others and experience a rich life.
We have two basic choices when it comes to self acceptance: to accept ourselves unconditionally or to only accept parts of ourselves . Both choices are yours to make. But one of these will give you a good quality of life and the other will limit you and your happiness.
This is not to say that you won’t have times of challenge with regards to your self image, but that after you passed through those challenging emotions you are left with a simple choice.
Would you like to feel happy and good about yourself, or not?
So how do we choose unconditional self acceptance?
What are the action steps? Let’s take a look at that now.