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Frustrated with your Success Strategy? Here’s Help.

You have a goal. You have your success strategy. You start on day one to implement it. You work hard on each tactic of your success strategy. Day in, day out, you stay focused. But at the end the day, week, month, you feel frustrated. You wish you had more accomplished. Sound Familiar? Well help is here…

Well you’re not alone. I often feel this way myself. There is so much I want to accomplish, oftentimes my expectations exceed what is possible in a given day. Hence, frustration.

I often use the analogy of climbing Mt. Everest. (you can see how I view my list of goals!) It’s like Mt. Everest represents the attainment of all my goals fully completed. Everyday I set out trekking towards the peak and at the end of every day I’m still looking up at that peak and I say to myself “I’m not there yet.” And so I feel unsatisfied, a sense of failure even! My focus is wrong! Let me tell you how I discovered the secret to eliminating this frustration.

I was describing this to my dad the other day and he said “If it was easy everyone would be doing it.” We can take that another step and say If Success Was Easy Everyone Would Be Doing It. Wow!
This had a big impact on me.

This taught me three important success strategies that have helped me feel great and drop the frustration feelings.

The first lesson is this:

1) Keep An Eye on the Peak, But at the End of Each Day Review & Celebrate How Far You’ve Come! At the end of each day all I was looking at was how far I had yet to go. Of course I was feeling frustrated. Now what I do is keep a quick record of all I accomplished each day. I try to review it at night and even close my eyes to relax as I do this. Then I say to myself, “Good Job. You made great progress today!” If you can, share your success with someone. If I didn’t make progress then I ask myself what I learned and what I can do better tomorrow. What are the most important things I can do tomorrow towards my top goals.

2) Take Heart, Difficult Goals + Perseverance = Uncommon Success. Because your goals are difficult, much of the competition will drop out. That means that if you can hang in there and keep plugging away each day, you will succeed. And imagine what will happen if you can add some skill to the mix. You’ll be a total success!

3) Plan Your Day To Stay on Track. This is simple, but a lot of times we don’t write it down because we say “I know what I need to do.” Well if you write down a simple to-do list each day you will have a guide that will keep you from getting sidelined during the day. Keep it in front of you all day. Whenever you find yourself losing focus, refer to it. Plan according to what will get you the most progress today on your most important goals. Do the toughest things first when you have the most energy! Do the easier things later in the day when your energy is lagging.

So implement your success strategy everyday, review & celebrate your progress, keep plugging everyday, and plan your day! May success and a sense of accomplishment be yours!

Recommended Reading: Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen.

Choosy People Choose Less Choice

Do you ever walk away from surfing the internet feeling frazzled? Does trying to find the optimal computer, cell phone, or mate have you exhausted? Shouldn’t all our choices make our lives better?

Having choice means having control which is shown to improve the quality of life. And, today, with the internet, megastores, and globalization, we have more choices than ever in the history of mankind.

So why are we worn out from all our choice?

There is fresh research by Columbia University professor Sheena Iyengar that shows that too much choice is actually bad for you.

So what is a modern consumer to do?

Try adding more satisfaction to your life in the form of “being happy with what you have.” Contentment can be cultivated by being grateful for what you have. This brings true happiness. This is a lesson I have learned elquently from both Zig Ziglar and Andrew Matthews.

People who are constantly trying to maximize everything are always so focused on the destination that the never enjoy the journey.

So you still need to find a new computer, cell phone, mate or whatever. What should you do? Balance out maximization with some satisfaction.

1)Figure out what you need. Keep it as simple as possible.

2)Find a website that allows you to search by features such as for cell phones, PC Connection for computers, or for dating. Don’t get sidetracked by features that fall outside of what you need.

3)Once you find the best then be satisfied with it and enjoy your life!

Good enough is enough. And enough is plenty.

For all you Type A’s out there, chant this mantra every time you feel yourself getting sucked into over-maximization.

Enjoy “Good Enough” and see how happy you feel. Don’t worry. Your goals and drive will still be there tomorrow.

Boldness Has Genius

Are you sick of your own procrastiation? Does your motivation need a shot in the arm? Read this famous quote:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” – Goethe or was it someone else who said this?

Regardless of who said this, here are your instructions for success today:

1)Read this Goethe Quote and memorize this part: Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now!

2) What is the difficult thing you’ve been postponing?

3) Decide what you can do today to move things along on your goal. JUST ONE.
Examples: make a call, schedule an appointment, prioritize the parts of the project, delegate a task, get out of your chair and talk to colleague you need info from, break off an engagement, tell someone you’ve changed plans, go walking, do 10 pushup & 10 situps, smile, laugh.

4) Do it!

5) Repeat.

6) 15 minutes before quitting time, close up shop and enjoy the rest of your day/evening. Acknowlege your success to yourself or with a friend, no matter how small it may seem. Celebrating success will perpetuate success.

7) Repeat tomorrow.

May the force be with you!

Do Your Emotions Control You?

I’ve learned recently by paying attention to my body, that how I feel on any given day has a lot to do with the mysterious chemical soup inside my body. Some of it I have control over, such as the food I eat or whether I’ve gotten enough sleep, but there is much I don’t have control over. Hormones and other brain chemicals may make me feel any number of things such as sad, aggravated, loving, happy, content, hungry, in need of affection, in need of alone time, quiet, gregarious, and so on.

The key here is that these feelings are not triggered by EVENTS. They are triggered by internal chemicals. (Events can trigger feelings too, but I’m talking about waking up with a particular feeling and with no event triggering it.)

So what happens to a lot of us if we wake up feeling sad, for instance? What I have noticed is that we tend to FIND an event or circumstance to plug-in to that emotion. “Why do I feel this way? Oh yeah, I don’t have a boyfriend.� But yesterday you were happy to be single and independent.

The problem with plugging in an event or circumstance into every feeling we have is it doesn’t allow the emotion to just be and then pass along. We often prolong emotions by doing this. Now if it is a positive emotion then maybe that’s ok.

So what is the answer?

If you wake up with a negative emotion or even if it strikes you mid-afternoon, consider first whether it could be from your internal chemistry. Maybe you’re tired or hungry or both. Maybe certain hormones are on an upswing or downswing. If so, take a brief break – even five minutes- to close your eyes, breathe deeply and calm your mind with either visualization or a simple mantra.

This can also save you from making a relationship mistake. Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend is really not a match for you and you know it. You procrastinate about breaking up and wait for the next flood of good emotions to hit, thus proving to yourself that it is the right thing to give this person another chance. If someone does not mesh well with your values in life, then save yourself some heartache down the line by breaking it off and finding someone who is right for you.

Recognize that the negative emotion will pass. Just find a way to take a break or promise yourself a rest as soon as you are able. Don’t dig yourself into a deeper hole by piling events and circumstances onto a chemically triggered emotion.

If your emotion does relate to an event or circumstance, ask yourself it might be exacerbated by internal chemicals. If so, wait to take action if you can. If not, then identify the problem, brainstorm solutions and breakdown the best solution into chunks that you can complete bit by bit.

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