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6 Simple Steps to Achieve Laser-Like Focus

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Once and for all, learn how to simply focus your mind for improved productivity. You can do it! And all you need is the power of your mind!

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6 Simple Steps to Achieve Laser-Like Focus

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How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset

Let It Be

How often do people tell you to “Let It Go” when you’re upset about something? In many cases that is like saying “Don’t think of a pink elephant.” It’s almost impossible.

For a more effective alternative check out my guest article over at ZenHabits.net:

How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset

While you’re there check out Leo Babauta’s brand new ebook: Zen To Done. The book give you a “simple system to get you more organized and productive, and keep your life saner and less stressed, with a set of habits. ” I’ll be writing a review of this great book shortly.

Zen To Done teaches you:

  1. The key habits needed to be productive, organized, and simplified … and no more than that.
  2. How to implement these key habits … tips on forming a habit.
  3. How to organize these habits into a simple system that will keep everything in your life in its place.
  4. How to simplify what you need to do.
  5. Minimal ZTD. Also includes an even simpler version called Minimal ZTD.

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A Nurse’s Top Three Tips For Healthy Living

A Nurse’s Top Three Tips For Healthy Living

This is a guest post by Catherine Morgan. Catherine is a writer, nurse, and mother. She has two blogs, Be the Change You Want to See in Yourself and Women4Hope, where she writes about positive life changes, women’s issues, health & wellness, and inspirational thoughts. She is also a contributing editor at BlogHer.org.

1. You are what you eat, and it is never too late to start eating healthy. Every day, try your very best to put healthy foods and plenty of water into your body. When you have a choice between something healthy and something not healthy, go with the healthy choice. But, don’t be too hard on yourself on the days you fall back into old habits. There is no rule that says, to be healthy you have to be perfect. Even if you are eating healthy 50% of the time, that is still better than none of the time.

If you are one to never go for the healthy choice, then start today with a commitment to eat one thing that is good for you (just one thing that you would normally not eat), and do that for a week. After a week, start eating two things that are good for you, and so on, and so on. Before you know it, you’ll be eating healthy half the time…And that’s a great start.

You can start today, loving yourself and your family enough to stop poisoning your body with unhealthy foods. Heart disease is the number one killer in our country. And 80% of heart disease is due to eating an unhealthy diet that leads to high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and diabetes. Start today, and take a bite in the right direction…Your heart will thank you.

2. Give yourself some “me” time each and every day, even if you think you don’t need it. This is so often overlooked because we are all so busy with our lives. But, we each have to find time to be one with ourselves, even if it is just a short amount of time. A bath, a silent meditation, an hour to read a book or write in a journal, something that takes us away with ourselves.

If you are thinking that you don’t need to do that, you most likely just don’t know how to do that. Even though taking time to yourself sounds simple, it’s quite difficult and almost scary if you have never been one to do it. So take it slow, sit quietly with yourself (without the t.v. or the radio) for just five minutes. Think about what quiet activity you could do on your own for just a short period of time each day, and then start doing it.

Taking quiet time for yourself each day, is how you help to promote a healthy mind and spirit. And these quiet activities also tend to reduce stress, and even lower blood pressure. So give it a try.

If you are a mom with kids, who never has a free moment…Try involving your children in some way to help you get this precious time. When my children were younger, I had a special book that I would ask them to get me in the morning before I got out of bed. They knew that this was the time of the day that I took ten or fifteen minutes to myself, and they would sit quietly in another room until I was finished – then we would begin our day. It also teaches your children the value of quiet time, and that being alone doesn’t doesn’t have to be boring.

3. Exercising your body and mind. I’m not advocating rigorous exercise, or increasing your exercise quickly or dramatically. I just want to point out the obvious…Being a couch potato is counter productive for the general health and wellness of your body. Increasing your physical activity (even in a small way) is very beneficial.

If you normally don’t get any exercise, try taking a walk around the block, or parking a bit further away from the grocery store, or taking the steps instead of the elevator. Just take baby steps, see what your body can handle, and then gradually do a bit more. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, be kind to yourself, and know that every little bit helps.

*Important Note: Not all people can increase their physical activity without exacerbating a current medical condition. Let me use myself as an example. I have high blood pressure and a few other problems with my heart valves, and light exercise is recommend to me for these conditions. However, I also have Asthma and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and anytime I increase my physical activity even slightly both of these conditions are made worse. But at the same time, there are many other people with Asthma and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome that don’t have any problem with small increases in exercise. You need to find what works best for you.

We are all different, and what works for one of us won’t always work for all of us. That is why anyone with a chronic medical condition should always check with their doctor when they decide to increase their activity, even slightly. Your doctor can then give you some guidelines to follow, so you don’t do anything to make your medical problems worse.

When it comes to exercise; more isn’t always better, and pain doesn’t always mean gain. Whether you work-out at a gym, or walk around the block, keeping active is a very important part of keeping healthy. Each of us has to find an activity level that works for us, the important thing is to not stay sedentary. There are even exercises you can do without getting out of your chair. As you begin to increase your activity, you will most likely find you have more energy, and when that happens you will know you are doing something right

And don’t forget about keeping your “mind” active as well. There is scientific proof that as we get older we begin to lose some of our cognitive skills (such as memory), but there is also evidence that we can stop or at least slow that process by giving our brain a daily work-out. You can give your brain a work-out by reading, doing crossword puzzles, playing memory games, and basically anything that makes you think.

If you just make some small changes in your life, better health can be yours. So start today, and be the change you want to see in yourself, and your health…It’s as easy as one, two, three.

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Smart Questions That Will Super Charge Your Life

Smart Questions That Will Super Charge Your Life

I have a guest post over at Lifehack.org this week that is really cool.

What kinds of questions do you ask yourself everyday, perhaps without even realizing it? Do they make you stronger or weaker?

Please check out my guest article over at Lifehack.org to discover power questions that can instantly change your life!

Lifehack.org: Smart Questions That Will Super Charge Your Life

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Changing Roles

Changing Roles

This is a guest post by Pete Aldin of www.greatcircle.com.au and his free forum for parents of young adults who are struggling to find work.

Playing Many Different Roles

Johnny Depp Characters

When you think of a great character actor, who comes to mind? For me it’s Johnny Depp.

Just think about the differences in his roles as Jack Sparrow, Edward Scissorhands, Mort Rainey (Secret Window), Spencer Armacost (The Astronaut’s Wife) … and of course – Willy Wonka! Now, compare him with someone like Bruce Willis.

Willis almost exclusively plays the “burnout cop/criminal/taxi-driver/soldier on the verge of losing everything who finds his inner nobility and saves the day.� That’s basically his role in every movie he’s starred in.

What Roles Do You Play?

Human beings are more like Depp than Willis in that we often change roles depending on the situation we’re in and the needs we have at the time. What roles do you play? And which serve you well? Which don’t? It’s helpful to become both aware of them and intentional about which are most responsible and helpful for certain contexts.

Personally, I know that when I play the “He-Who-Must-Be-Obeyed� role with my older son, he automatically puts on his “Lawyer� (�let-me-show-you-the-error-in-your-reasoning-and-or-syntax�) role! There follows an escalating argument in which no one wins.

However when I change roles in my head to “Mentorâ€? or “Coachâ€?, the lad can’t play the Lawyer role – it doesn’t make sense. The two “scriptsâ€? don’t match. So he inevitably reverts to a more open-minded and co-operative role.

Which role do you play in job interviews? “Charity case� or “Worthy Prospect�? When you act in “charity case� or “I’m Too Good for This Job� roles, you’re handing the interviewer a bad script to read from.

Which role do you play in family dynamics? “Lecturer�, “Police Officer�, “Cheer Squad�, “Rescue Ranger�, “Self-Defined Adult�, “Spoiled Child�?

You get the drift.

Change Your Roles, Change Your Results

Try some different roles in problematic situations and see how it changes the “script�, the dynamic, the response of others, your own feelings and perspective.

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Going to the Beach Checklist!

Going to the Beach!

Going to the Beach

Make sure you don’t forget anything! Click below for a free Beach Checklist (pdf file).

Beach Checklist (pdf file)

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Getting Off the Treadmill of Life

I have a new guest post today over at Lifehack.org.

If you’ve ever wished you could slow things down in this hectic world, take a trip over to this article. There are eight solid ideas to get off the treadmill and find ways to reconnect with the joy in your life.

Lifehack.org: Getting Off the Treadmill of Life

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One Fish, Two Fish, Good Fish, Bad Fish

One Fish, Two Fish, Good Fish, Bad Fish

Which fish are OK to eat? Which ones have too much mercury and other contaminants? It is especially important for children, pregnant women, and nursing mothers to avoid the “bad fish.” Which fish have those great Omega-3 fatty acids that are so good for your heart?

Here’s list you can print out and keep in your wallet or purse for the next time you are at a restaurant or the fish market. This list is courtesy of Oceans Alive:

Best & Worst Seafood Choices
 
Our guide can help you choose fish that are healthy for the oceans and safe to eat. (Learn about seafood and your health and fish to avoid.)

Green text indicates fish that are both high in omega-3 fatty acids and low in environmental contaminants.
Red text indicates fish that are high in mercury or PCBs (see individual fish pages for more information).

 
  Seafood Selector FAQ: Get answers to your common questions.
  Pocket Seafood Selector: Print a wallet-sized copy of this list.
 
 
 
 
 
  Abalone (U.S. farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Anchovies
     
 
 
 
  Arctic char (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Catfish (U.S. farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Caviar (U.S. farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Clams (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  CrabDungeness, snow (Canada), stone
     
 
 
 
  Crawfish (U.S.)
     
 
 
 
  HalibutPacific (Alaska)
     
 
 
 
  Herring – Atlantic (U.S., Canada)
     
 
 
 
  Mackerel – Atlantic
     
 
 
 
  Mahimahi (U.S. Atlantic)
     
 
 
 
  Mussels (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Oysters (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Sablefish/black cod (Alaska)
     
 
 
 
  Salmon – wild (Alaska), canned pink/sockeye
     
 
 
 
  Sardines
     
 
 
 
  Scallopsbay (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Shrimp – northern (Canada), Oregon pink, U.S. farmed
     
 
 
 
  Spot prawns
     
 
 
 
  Striped bass (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Sturgeon (U.S. farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Tilapia (U.S.)
     
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
  Caviar (wild)
     
 
 
 
  Chilean seabass/toothfish
     
 
 
 
  CodAtlantic
     
 
 
 
  Grouper
     
 
 
 
  HalibutAtlantic
     
 
 
 
  Marlin
     
 
 
 
  Monkfish/goosefish
     
 
 
 
  Orange roughy
     
 
 
 
  Rockfish/rock cod (Pacific)
     
 
 
 
  Salmon – Atlantic (farmed)
     
 
 
 
  Shark
     
 
 
 
  Shrimp/prawns (imported)
     
 
 
 
  Skate
     
 
 
 
  Snapper
     
 
 
 
  Sturgeon (wild)
     
 
 
 
  Swordfish (imported)
     
 
 
 
  Tilefish
     
 
 
 
  Tuna – bluefin
     
 
 
 
   
     
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
      How we rate fish on Eat Smart

Pocket Seafood Selector: Print a wallet-sized copy of this list.

Please visit Oceans Alive for more information.

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Do You Know How to Really Forgive Someone?

The Problem with Not Forgiving

Most people have at least one person in their life that they harbor anger against for some reason or another. For some the anger is due to a serious hurt, whether physical or emotional, such as assault or abuse. For others the anger stems from less important issues, but the anger is just as real and just as debilitating. For instance the resentment that can build up in a relationship over many years over many small and large differences. For some, maybe it is a co-worker that angers you, they ask too much of you, they sabotage you, or they just annoy you.

Why do we hold onto anger? At it’s root, it’s because we want to hurt that person back. The problem with this strategy is that it doesn’t hurt the intended. It only hurts us. Think about it. Can you be happy when you are angry? Have you ever noticed that you have more accidents the more angry you are? So how do you get rid of this anger? By forgiving.

The Problem with Forgiving

If forgiving is the answer to releasing your anger, why don’t we do it? Well, because forgiving someone is hard! Another reason is that we don’t know how to do it properly. And then there is the fear that by forgiving someone we are inviting them to hurt us again or that we are saying what they did was ok.

How to Really Forgive Someone

1)Examine Your Anger – Take some time to understand your anger. It’s easy to say, “Well I just hate that person” or “That person drives me crazy.” For some the reason for the anger is very clear as in the case of assault, for instance. But other times, the root of our anger is not so clear. Why does this person “bug you?” Why do you get angry at your boss? Why do you flip out when your spouse parks the car “the wrong way.” The reason it is important to understand your anger is that if you identify clearly what the root is, then you can go about finding a possible solution. This doesn’t work in all cases. But try this first anyway. Then ask yourself what can YOU do to make the situation better? If it’s about trying to change a person, the only way to really impact a person is to love them, praise them and continually discover and focus on the good in that person. This takes time, but try it!! It really works. If it’s an intolerable situation and you can’t ignore it, find a way to not be around this person.

2) “Thank You for This Experience.”
Have you ever noticed how good can spring up from bad experiences? Just like after a forest fire the first thing you see is lots of little green plants starting to grow. What did you learn about your inner strength from your negative experience? What did you learn about yourself that has made you a stronger person? This doesn’t make wrongs against you right. But it puts you back in the position of power, not victimhood. Remember, you have survived. Build on that! And little by little explore where you see small bits of green sprouting up in your life. Focus on that, have gratitude for that good, and you will be in the process of forgiving.

3) Relationship Resentment -Let it Go: Advice from the book “Follow Your Heart” by Andrew Matthews (one of my favorite books) is brilliant. In his book he talks about how we make up rules for how others should behave. If they don’t behave that way, we make them “guilty” and we hold a grudge. But does it change the situation? No. All it does it “ruin our lives!” He uses humor to make a good point, “When a seagull craps on your head, do you resent the seagull?” Do you resent the weather when it rains? So why resent people?

Whatever the “guilty party” got wrong, it is history. The question is, “Do you want your life to work or don’t you.” And he also takes on the hard situations too. For instance, he a friend who found forgiveness after having his 3 teenage daughters murdered. It wasn’t easy, but in the end he realized that only he had control over how he moved forward with his life. He didn’t want his life to be miserable so he “let go of anger” for his “own sake and his own survival.”

4) Meditate on Compassion: Imagine your antagonist as a baby. What has been their life? Why do they act in ways that hurt you or others? If you can find a small place of compassion, of understanding, then perhaps in seeing them as a victim of their circumstances, you may find a place of peace about what happened. Buddhism says: “for the victimizer is, truly, the most unfortunate of all.”  Buddhism urges us to focus on loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity as “a means for avoiding resentment in the first place.”

The Dalia Lama lives a life of forgiveness in action. The book, “The Wisdom of Forgiveness” gives an account his life in this regard. Again this doesn’t make crimes committed right. This doesn’t mean that you should necessarily befriend a person who hurt you or that you should take your guard down in protecting yourself from a dangerous person. But if you can find a place where you can wish for their healing, you will find your own healing. If this doesn’t work, move onto #5.

5) Turn it over to God: Put your trust in God that God will take care of this situation in the long run. God will provide you strength. God will bring justice in the end. And hopefully God will heal the offender too. Take comfort in God’s love for you. If you have trouble understanding “why God let’s bad things happen” take a look at my post on Christianity and scroll down to the heading “Why Do We Have to Suffer.”

6) If you don’t believe in God, then at least know that in science all things eventually come to equilibrium. And so, turn it over to the universe. Turn it over to your friends’ and family’s love for you. Allow yourself to be comforted and strengthened by their love.

7) Write it Down. Take all these suggestions and journal about your feelings and then write down the answers to the questions: How will I forgive? What will I gain by forgiving? What is the good in all this? What have I learned? How will my life be better by forgiving?

What Have You Got to Lose? – Only Peace

Who are you holding resentment against? Who are you angry at? Who do you hate? Do you want release from this heavy yoke around your heart? Do you want peace and happiness? Try forgiveness… for your sake. Take it slow. It is a process. Over time you can watch your anger melt. The Dalai Lama is said to have the heart health of a 20 year old according to his doctors. Why is that? Perhaps it just might be that he holds no anger. Imagine what it could do for you!

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International Woman of Mystery: Ilker Yoldas and The Thinking Blog

Inspiring Blog Inspiring Author

There is a site that inspires me and it is called “The Thinking Blog.” It is authored by Ilker Yoldas. This blog inspires me to write my best for my blog. The Thinking Blog provides “Thinking Fuel” for your brain, which is similar to what I want to bring to my readers, “Learning Fuel” – to borrow a phrase. The posts are diverse, well researched and make an impact on you. I am also inspired by Ilker and her positive, friendly, good-hearted nature which I believe is genuine. I am inspired by her success story in gaining a very solid readership in just 3 months, but I believe that her success directly stems from her superb content and her positive nature.

TheThinkingBlog

Posts of Note

I have yet to read all of The Thinking Blog, but that wouldn’t be easy as she posts religiously every day, which means after 3 months, she has at least 90+ interesting posts to choose from in categories such as: arts, cars, computers, creative, design, games, health, music, sports, technology, and more. A couple of posts that demonstrate her well researched, well-thought out content are: The Cult of Apple-Part 1 and Microsoft Substitutes. These are two of her longer posts. The Cult of Apple-Part 1 is a well thought out examination of the merits and fallacies of blindly following Apple (without being negative or disrespectful). Microsoft Substitutes is about all the cool open source computer goodies she uses with links to where to get them. In her posts, Ilker makes good use of including videos, diagrams and other visuals to relay good food for thought. Oh and of course you won’t want to miss her most popular post, Support Topless Women.

Designer Extraordinaire

Ilker is a designer and a good one. Here are 2  links to some of her work: Her website redesign and John Chow redesign idea. Of course there are many more examples in her blog. If you need to hire a freelance designer for your website, she is available. And of course you must check out her Free 2007 Calendar giveaway that showcases her beautiful photography.

Mystery Author

So why do I call her the International Woman of Mystery. Well it is because none of us, her readers, really know her. In fact we don’t even know if she is a man or a woman. I’ve seen her readers refer to her both as “he” and “she.” The avatar that she uses is a picture of Natalia Oreiro, a popular Latin Grammy-nominated Uruguayan singer and actress. She started by using the avatar as a test, and when she tried to go back to her alien fetus avatar, her readers demanded the Natalia avatar back.. She either lives in Turkey or is Turkish, but seems to be very American. Again another mystery. With every post we learn a little more about Ilker, like connecting the dots in the stars to form a constellation. I believe that her mystery is partially what keeps us coming back for more. With each post another clue is revealed. It’s a little bit like a reality blog, although the focus on herself is not Ilker’s aim. Her aim is to invite us to think along with her on the subjects that fascinate her.

One to Watch

Ilker has amassed a large community of readers. She claims to not be interested in “traffic or SEO or nothing like that,”  and also she “never thought of making money with this blog.” She claims it is “Just another hobby. Time left over from studying, sports, and hanging out with friends, this is what I enjoy doing. Its some serious fun!” (My guess is that she doesn’t sleep with all her activities both offline and online. How do you do it Ilker?) However, by design or by intuition she promotes her blog well and in doing so she has gained much blogging success.  As of this writing, she is ranked the 5th most popular community on MyBlogLog, and her Technorati Rank: is  8,646 (581 links from 360 blogs) which is excellent. UPDATE: Technorati Rank is now: 1,281 (1,943 links from 1,213 blogs)! That’s a jump of 7000 places! Wow!

Her Secret

The key to her success? She blogs with honor, her content is high quality, and she keeps us coming back for more because we all want to know this positve person a little better than yesterday. Congrats Ilker! Keep inspiring us all!

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