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Awakening-Joy

Online Happiness Course

I have discovered a wonderful “happiness course” that is available online. The course is called “Awakening Joy” and it is offered both online (for anyone, anytime) and on-site (for folks living in San Francisco). The course is taught by James Baraz, a mediation instructor and founder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, California.

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Top 10 Tips for Britney Spears and Anyone Who Is Feeling Lost in Life

Britney Spears comeback

The media has been having a field day with Britney Spears for the last few years and most especially over the last year. I’m not here to add to the gossip. I wish Britney all the best. What Britney is going through, under the media microscope, many of us also experience. We live through similar situations in our lives where we feel lost, can’t find our compass, and don’t know where to turn. When that happens there can be a lot of frantic frenzy like a puppy who’s just been let out of his crate. The puppy runs around and around, running into things, jumping up on people, and acting pretty crazy. Until he gets all his energy out. Only then is the puppy ready to listen to the guiding voice of his owner.

This happened to me a little bit in my early 20′s when, upon entering the real world, I needed to figure out where I was going. Being scared, I clung onto people, some of whom did not have my best interests at heart. I had some anxiety attacks and thought my world was caving in, when in reality, my body was trying to tell me to get some help. Over time I sought out the help of people who always loved me, my family. I learned about anxiety attacks and how harmless they really are and how easy they are to overcome.

So for Britney Spears and anyone else who feels lost, here are the things that helped me get back on track.

1. Slow Down and Stop Running Away. Trying to bury your problems underneath the pursuit of pleasure will not make them go away. Yes, you’ll feel good in the moment when you dive into chemicals, wild experiences, watching endless TV, new relationships, and sex, but every time the pleasure ends you will be right back where you started. The problems will still be there, still unresolved, and you’ll be looking for the next hedonistic experience to drown it out.

2. Let Go of Fear. If you are afraid to get off the vicious cycle described above, know that you can do it. You can handle it. Know that there is more than enough strength inside you. For many people, turning over their fear to God, a Higher Power, or to the Universe is a very powerful way to let go of fear. Another way is to imagine you are a child in your mother’s arms trusting her to take care of anything that comes along. Feel what that is like to release fear and to trust completely. Now do the same thing, but imagine being cradled by yourself. Feel and trust in your strength to handle anything in your life.

3. Let Go of the Notion That a Stormy Life is Romantic. Life is already stormy enough. You’ll have plenty of things in your life to keep it interesting. What you don’t want is factors that add unnecessary volatility to your life. Otherwise you’ll find yourself on the never ending cycle of chasing a high to heal your lows. See if you can identify what those factors are so you can begin to eliminate them one by one.

4. Return to the People Who Love You. These are the people you might be afraid will say “I told you so.” They might and they might not. Don’t worry about that. If there is any sense that someone has an agenda to exploit you then that is not the right person to go to. You want to go to the people who would be by your side when all the chips are down, when you are sick, and when you are penniless. Let your pride go and feel the relief of doing that. Go be loved. This means people who will listen to you, be with you, and support you.

5. Ask for Help. Don’t think you are burdening people. Don’t worry about people telling you “I told you so.” Don’t think you have to do work things out all on your own. Ask the people who love and support you for help. And don’t be afraid to ask a lot. Don’t worry. Pretty soon, once you’re feeling strong again, you won’t need to ask for as much help. But the good thing is you will have developed a very important habit of not being afraid to ask for help when you really need it.

6. Know Why You’re Trying to Change. Think of all the bad things in your life right now: the anxiety, the hangovers, the worry, the emotional turbulence and so on. Imagine how great life will be with all these difficulties eliminated from your life. “But,” you say, “I like the partying. I like chasing new relationships. I like the fast pace.” Changing your life doesn’t mean it will be without pleasure. It just means that you will be seeking a life that is more stable and less volatile. When you find purpose in your life and start taking care of yourself, you will have much more pleasure than you have today. You’ll still be able to laugh wildly, to do exciting things, to have fun, to have special romantic relationships, and so on. But it will all be in a way that supports a stable life. Stay focused on moving towards a better life and away from your current stormy life.

7. Find a Life Coach to Guide Your Life Planning. Purchase Anthony Robbins “Get the Edge” CD’s or Andrew Matthews tapes (my favorite self-help author) and start the fun activity of daydreaming what you want to do in your life. What is important to you? Start some life goal planning either on your own if you can or find someone who can walk you through the process. Planning your goals is fun. Go for it!

8. Take Baby Steps. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Change takes work and time. Go super slow. Be kind to yourself. Whenever you feel frustration emerging, remember the mantra “Go Slow.” Think about what is really important. Don’t worry about small things. Just take care of yourself. This will help break your knee-jerk reaction of diving into things that aren’t good for you whenever you are feeling low.

9. Exercise Daily. Get outside and either walk or jog everyday. Alternate listening to music and listening to your own thoughts. Use that time to enjoy nature and let go of your problems. It’s also a good time to plan solutions for your goals. Exercise makes people happier. It helps relieve anxiety. It makes you feel strong, which you are! Exercise is a great way to tap into your inner strength that is always available whenever you choose to plug into it!

10. Get Involved in Something Outside Yourself. When I was having anxiety in college, my campus job making sandwiches made me feel so good. I was too busy to worry about anything. It got my blood flowing and it stopped my brain from re-treading those worry paths over and over again. So find something to do that will keep you very busy for a period of time everyday or every other day. You could try volunteer work, a new hobby, a book club or some other social group. Just pick one and do it. And remember #5, ask for help if you need a jump getting started.

Wishing you, Britney, and all those who are going through a tough transition, much peace and success on your journey!

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The Simple Life Can Be Yours

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Many of us have the fleeting dream of living a simple life. That fantasy floats through our mind and just as it arrives, it floats out.

Stop putting off that dream. The idea is to start small and begin living the life of your dreams little by little. Read how in my article at Dumb Little Man:

The Simple Life Can Be Yours

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How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset

Let It Be

How often do people tell you to “Let It Go” when you’re upset about something? In many cases that is like saying “Don’t think of a pink elephant.” It’s almost impossible.

For a more effective alternative check out my guest article over at ZenHabits.net:

How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset

While you’re there check out Leo Babauta’s brand new ebook: Zen To Done. The book give you a “simple system to get you more organized and productive, and keep your life saner and less stressed, with a set of habits. ” I’ll be writing a review of this great book shortly.

Zen To Done teaches you:

  1. The key habits needed to be productive, organized, and simplified … and no more than that.
  2. How to implement these key habits … tips on forming a habit.
  3. How to organize these habits into a simple system that will keep everything in your life in its place.
  4. How to simplify what you need to do.
  5. Minimal ZTD. Also includes an even simpler version called Minimal ZTD.

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A Lesson in Zen: Such

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In college I took a course on Zen Buddhism. I really loved it because it taught me to think of things from a different perspective.

One of the lessons that struck a chord in me was a meditation on “Such.� In a nutshell, the meditation calls upon you think of things as just “such,� simply for what they are and not relative to anything else. This is difficult to do because everything we experience is given meaning or definition by its function or by its relative proximity to other things.

For instance, if I show you a picture of a chair and ask you what it is you’ll probably say “a chair.� But if I place a knife, fork, plate, and some food on it then it becomes a table. And if I stand on it to change a lightbulb, it becomes a step ladder.

Another way that we experience the relative perception of things is as “good� or “bad.� Things are perceived as good when seen in contrast to bad things and vice versa. Here’s an example. Let’s say you are running late for the airport and you miss your plane. That’s bad right? Good = getting on the plane and not losing time and money. What if you later find out that the plane you were supposed to be on crashed? Now how do you feel about missing the plane? That’s good right?

The lesson I wish to leave you with today is to not fear or run from “the bad,� the uncomfortable, the frightening, the dirty, the smelly, from hunger, sadness, pain and so on. By experiencing these things this is how we come to know the good, the comfortable, the beautiful, the delicious, peace, luxury, love, happiness, and more.

For today, try to see “the bad� as just “such.� And know that by encountering “the bad� in life, you will come to know and, more importantly, appreciate “the good� in life. Also, ask yourself how you can reframe your “bad� experiences so that you perceive them, instead, as good. Ask yourself, what did I learn from this? What should I learn from this? Where is the good in this? Sometimes when bad things happen in our life, it is a gift that shines a light on what is really important and good in our life. Really feel and experience the good in your life today.

Life is challenging. Life is beautiful. Life is such.

Peace to you.

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What If….

What If…

…You had all the money you wanted?Happy

  • How would your life be different?
  • Where would you live?
  • What would you do?
  • What would be the same?

…You already have all the money you need?

  • How can you live the life you want with what you have right now?
  • What is inside of you that is keeping you from being happy right now? How can you release that?

…You had all the love that you wanted?

  • How would you feel?
  • What would be different in your life?

…You already have all the love you need?

  • Who already loves you?
  • Who loves you that you take for granted?
  • Who do you love?
  • How can you relish the love that is already in your life more?

…You had meaning in your life?

  • What would that look like?
  • How would you be living your life?
  • How would that feel?

…You already have meaning in your life?

  • What is meaningful in your life right now?
  • How do you make a difference to others in your life today?
  • How could you make your life more meaningful today?
  • How would that feel?

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Fluid Yoga, Fluid Power

Review: Shiva Rea Fluid Power: Vinyasa Flow Yoga

I was fortunate to try this new yoga DVD recently. I loved it so much, I want to share with you a review of this remarkable yoga DVD.

I’m a big fan of yoga beacuase of the total body and mind conditioning it gives you. And I’m a big fan of yogini Shiva Rea. Her yoga videos give you everything you could want:

  • Inspired, organic, and unique yoga instruction.
  • Background music that fits well with each portion of the practice from invigorating to meditative.
  • Easy to use matrix that allows you to create your own custom practice.
  • Preset practices for when you don’t want to make choices.
  • Beautiful scenery and inspiring demonstration of the poses.
  • Many extras including interviews and education.

Shiva Rea Fluid Power – the DVD

Shiva Rea’s latest DVD, Fluid Power, creates a wonderful follow up to her other 2 sensational yoga DVD’s, Yoga Shakti and Yoga Trance Dance. Fluid Power is a creative yoga DVD that celebrates and honors the fluid wave motion of our bodies and of our world. Shiva presents her yoga practices in vinyasa form which is a series of yoga poses that flow together.

There are over 3 hours of yoga sequences to choose from when creating your custom practice or choosing from the 6 preset practices. The matrix system that allows you to do this on your DVD player is very easy to use. The DVD comes with a beautiful booklet that describes each sequence and guides you in how you might want to structure your practice. If you want super easy, just choose from one of the 6 preset practices that vary in both length and level of intensity, from purely meditative to advanced.

What I really like about this video is how it combines creativity of motion, meditative poses, and also challenging poses that leave you feeling not only stronger and more flexible, but also like you tapped into a whole new part of your being, getting in touch with your fluid self. I found that this was very relaxing even while gently challenging. It is truly unlike any other yoga video I’ve ever seen. I would say that it falls somewhere between Yoga Shakti, which is quite challenging and Yoga Trance Dance which is highly creative. Fluid Power combines the best essences of these two DVD’s giving you creative yoga that lets you explore, while at the same time providing structure that is comforting.

This video is for beginners with some experience all the way up to advanced yoga students. If you want a Shiva Rea yoga that has it all, this is the one to buy. I have all 3 of her top videos and since each one is unique, I can recommend owning all 3. Below is a list of some of her popular videos. Which is your favorite?

Other Shiva Rea Yoga DVD’s

Shiva Rea - Yoga ShaktiShiva Rea – Yoga Shakti

Shiva Rea - Fluid Power - Vinyasa Flow YogaShiva Rea – Fluid Power – Vinyasa Flow Yoga

Acacia - Yoga Trance Dance - Exercise And YogaAcacia – Yoga Trance Dance – Exercise And Yoga

Prenatal Yoga With Shiva ReaPrenatal Yoga With Shiva Rea

Sun Salutations with Shiva ReaSun Salutations with Shiva Rea

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Slow Down for Peace of Mind AND Success

In A Rush?

Do you ever feel like your life is a constant rush from one activity to the next? Want to get rid of that stressed out feeling? Well, you can! You just have to make a commitment to slowing down.

Will this mean less success? No. But you’ll probably begin to redefine what success really is. We need to stop being busy long enough to realize what success means to us. For me it has meant posting fewer times per week on my blog so that I can enjoy some family time. I was really burning the candle on both ends, so this summer I have been writing about 3-5 blog posts per week as opposed the 7 per week I was writing last spring.

Just like our homes, our calendars can become cluttered too. We schedule every minute of our time leaving no time for transitions or relaxation. Slowing Down doesn’t mean stopping. It doesn’t mean lazy. It means a pace that is healthy for our body and soul, as well as for our need to achieve.

How to Slow Down

1. Adopt a “Slow Down Mindset.” Decide that you will not be rushed by life and that you will take steps to consciously go slower.

2. Daily Planinng. Leave open ample time between activities and appointments. Schedule in “slow time” for thinking, reading, walking, conversation, playing, etc.

3. Arrive Early. When you’re late, stress hormones course through your body and for many people it’s effect can be felt well after your late arrival as you internally berate yourself, fume about living in a rushed world, and/or worry about what others think of your tardiness. So do yourself a HUGE favor and plan to arrive early from now on. Here’s how:

  • Leave 20-30 minutes earlier than you think you need to leave.
  • Have everything you will need ready 1 hour before you need to leave.
  • Bring reading or writing materials with you.
  • When you arrive early, use that early time to relax, close your eyes, rest, think, write, draw, or even make a phone call if the place is appropriate.
  • Bask the relaxing feeling of being early!

4. Don’t Be in a Rush. In general, try not to always be rushing. Pay attention and be aware of your pace. If you are already late, here’s how to handle it:

  • Call ahead if needed and give a realistic ETA.
  • Take a deep breath.
  • Accept that you’re late and that you can’t change it.
  • Don’t get mad at traffic or other people. It’s not their fault, and it will only drain your energy.
  • Go Slow.
  • When you arrive, apologize and then move forward.

5. Eat Slow. We eat like we live: fast. And look what it does to us. Many of us are overweight. One great way to combat this is to slow down your eating. Here’s how:

  • Before you begin to eat, close your eyes and say to yourself: “I will eat slowly and enjoy this food.”
  • Take a nice deep slow breath to slow down your pace.
  • Leave work and worries behind while you eat.
  • Eat slowly.
  • Really taste your food.
  • Enjoy.

6. Audit Your Schedule. How are you spending your time? What does your average day, week, month look like for you? Write down a rough outline of it. Now, what can you cut out? Appointments, mindless TV time, what else? Keep the things that line up with your values, that you really enjoy. We can’t do it all, so why not just do those things that you really love? Less is more. Be at peace with this, knowing that you’re spending your time thoughtfully instead of frantically.

7. Caffeine? Does caffeine serve you well? For some, it does. For me, it doesn’t, and it took me a while to accept that. So now, I only have caffeine as a special treat occasionally. How does it affect you? Does it increase your tendency to rush? Does it make you agitated? If so, you might want to consider cutting back or eliminating it. Try cutting back for a day and see how it feels. I just drink decaf now if I want coffee or tea, both of which I love.

8. Here & Now. Learning from the past is important, and so is planning for the future. The problem is we don’t spend much conscious time in the present. The present is the place where we find the true joy of life. Children and pets live in the present moment. They notice little things, they wonder about their world, and they delight in whatever they are currently experiencing. If they get hurt, they move on pretty quickly whether it is a wounded knee or a wounded pride. Let’s take a lesson from them and aspire to discover this magic daily.

Resource
SlowDownNow Blog – I was recently inspired by this blog which has many great stories that will inspire you to slow down.

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Letting Go of Control


Feeling Overwhelmed?

Like many people, I spend a great deal of my life trying to control outcomes. I want to get my work done well and on time. I want to be the best parent so my child will be happy, appreciate the value of hard work, be kind, develop good character, be safe, healthy and so on. I want to keep on top of developments in my field. I want to keep myself healthy. We just moved, so I wanted to make sure everything went smooth. If we go on an outing I try to remember everything the family will need while we are out. There’s a lot of work and stress involved in trying to control all these things in life. It’s good to work hard and to try to make life the best it can be for you and your family.

And then there are times when it is best to Turn Control Over to a power beyond yourself.

When to Turn It Over

  • When you’ve done all you can.
  • When circumstances are out of your control.
  • When you are tired and exhausted.
  • When you’re taking on more than you need to, especially a lot of little things that are not your real priorties.


Turn It Over to Whom?

  • Turn It Over to God
  • Turn It Over to Fate
  • Turn It Over to the Universe
  • Turn It Over to Science
  • Turn it Over to Other People

Allow yourself to be comforted by a belief that good will prevail in the end. Expect the best. Know that you can handle anything that comes your way. Take each day, and each moment one at a time. Truly. Try to live just in this moment. A good book to check out is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. If you’ve done all you can and you can no longer influence the outcome, then let it go. If you’re trying to control too many little things and it’s wearing you out, focus just on what’s really important, and let go of the rest. Put it in a higher power’s hands. What have you got to lose? Only worry. It’s not about giving up or not trying anymore, but allowing ourselves to let go of our grip of control when it doesn’t serve us well.

Stop Trying to Control Everything

How do you do this?

  • Imagine a higher power that cares about you. (If you reject this, ask yourself why you do and what do you have to lose by trying?)
  • Imagine your intentions carrying good results your way.
  • Believe in good outcomes. Meditate on this and then imagine actually handing over your worries to this higher power. You can do this in combination with a Meditation Nap.
  • Let go of fear. Allow your body to rest and relax. As the body goes, so goes the mind. Release your muscle tension and you can release the tension in your mind.
  • With your eyes closed, try a series of tensing and then releasing of your muscles. Start with the face, eyes, jaws, neck, then upper back, arms, hands & fingers, lower back, abdomen, legs, and feet.
  • After doing this either rest if it’s night time or if it’s during the day the best thing might be to focus on other work that you can control and that needs to be done. Or if you can afford to do it, take some time off with something fun to distract your mind, further cementing the habit of letting go. For workaholics it can be a great lesson to learn that the world doesn’t fall apart when you take some time off. Go ahead. Give yourself permission to feel good.


Feel the Relief

If you are truly letting go, you should feel a sense of relief and also a sense of release as your muscles begin to let go of tension. Where do you feel the release? Your jaw? Neck? Shoulders? Your mind? You may feel it in your heart. And don’t be surprised if when you let go that you feel a cry coming on. That’s good. That’s part of the release. Let it out and you will feel much better. The thing with letting go is that it is tricky – the task is essentially to try “not trying” – and it can also be fleeting. One moment you’ve got it, you’re relaxed. And the next, you’re clinging to control again, worrying. But letting go is a habit that can be developed and strengthened. Take your time. Be easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself. Believe in good outcomes, even if it means going through a challenge to get there. You can do it!

Wishing you good luck and peace of mind!

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Friday Is A Good Day To….

Friday Is A Good Day To….










  • Travel! – which is what I’ll be doing today. Please enjoy one of my past posts that you haven’t read yet. See you tomorrow with a new post.


  • Say Thank You! Thank you Life Learning Today subscribers!! I’m so honored to have the privilege of writing for you! If you’ve made a comment recently, thank you! I will respond as soon as my move is over, this weekend. Wishing everyone a great Friday! 

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