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How to Stop Making Problems – Start Making Not-Problems

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I don’t know about you, but I have a little tendency (or maybe a big tendency) to take a situation and then start making problems. For example, let’s say I have a friend comes with the problem and asks for my help. I give them my advice, but I make it into a problem for me. How? I become tied to their outcome. I start worrying about whether they will take my advice are not. Will they go off the deep end? Will their problems get worse? Will they continue to have this problem? And so on.

The answer is maybe yes and maybe no. The way to make it a Not-Problem is to realize it doesn’t matter. Each person is on their own path. You can give help, advice, and love, but they must walk their own path. And you must walk yours.

Worry over future negative outcomes = “creating problems.”

Do you ever do this?

Let’s examine the simple solution to make Not-Problems.

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The Power of Your Mind – No, Really the Power of Your Mind

Focus the Mind

You have a problem. (How do I know this? We All have problems or at least we think we do!!!)

Let’s say your problem is your mood. You want to be happy, but you can’t get out of negative feelings – frustration, anger, sadness, etc. You wonder:

Is it lack of sleep? Bad food? My time of the month? Too much caffeine, right? That comment from my co-worker, spouse, friend, etc.?

No, no, no, no, and no.

These could have been triggers, but it’s not the reason why you’re in a pickle right now.

The reason is the habits of your mind. You can have the best of intentions and desires to change your mood (or attain whatever solution needed for your problem), but until you change your habit of mind, you just won’t get there.

But there is Great News! You can definitely overcome this! How? The power of your mind! Duh!

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What to Do When Fear Creeps In On a Good Day

Good things are coming
I just learned this today. See if this rings a bell for you.

Ever have a day when things are suddenly going well in your life? The sun is shining. You’re meeting your goals. No technology road bumps. People are letting you go in traffic. The world is generally shining on you and you are riding that wave!

And then you do that thing.

You suddenly think “This is strange. I wonder when the other shoe will drop? When will stuff start going wrong – like it usually does?”

Guess what that is going to get you? Yup, a shoe dropping out of the sky right on your head – allowing you to say “Ah, there you are. I was expecting you.”

The bottom line is if you look for the shoe, you’re going to find the shoe.

There’s a better way to handle great moments in your life, a way that is much more empowering and which will manifest more of the good stuff that you’re experiencing.

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The Answer to Almost All Relationship Problems

Just Be Kind

Your husband left the toothpaste cap off again. (and the toilet seat up, and…..)

Your boss is a raving lunatic.

Your child is having a tantrum. Again.

Your mother won’t stop telling you how to live your life.

Your father is distant.

Your friend always says the most insensitive things.

Someone just honked their horn at you in the parking lot for some unknown reason.

What to do?

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Are You Living the Life You Really Want?

Living the Life of Your Dreams

Are you living YOUR life, the life you want to live? Are you so busy that you constantly “don’t have time?” To whom and to what are you giving your time? What beliefs drive your actions? Have you ever thought about this? Does life have to be this hectic? Do you want a different life, but don’t believe it’s possible?

How would you feel if you could have a different life, the one you want to live? Would you dare to take action (or less action)? What if you knew that once you climbed the hill and descended into the valley of your changes, that you could experience a more fulfilling and joyous life? Let’s take a peak over the hill together…

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How to Change When Something Big In Your Life Is Not Working

 

How to make big changes

Is there something in your life that is just not working? A relationship, your job, your lifestyle? Maybe your health? You know it when something’s not working. You have a constant uneasiness about it. You know something needs to change, but for some reason you keep avoiding it – staying busy instead.

Perhaps the thought of change makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you know it will be difficult. Maybe you don’t know where to start. And so you find rational excuses like “I don’t have time to change,” “it won’t work,” or just flat out pushing it under the rug in your mind. But that little bugger won’t go away and will keep bothering you like a pebble in your shoe until you address it.

There’s a way to make big changes that won’t totally disrupt your life.

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Cancer is Not a Death Sentence

Life is Good!

Life is Good!

If you or a loved one has just gotten a cancer diagnosis, I want to reach out to you with this article to let you know you don’t have to be afraid. Of course you will be in the beginning. We are conditioned to fear cancer. But, I want you to know that you have enormous hope for a high quality, healthy, even long, life in your future if you want that and are willing to listen to the message from your body and take action to heal it.

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Doing and Not-Doing

ToDo List

Have you ever noticed the anxiety you can experience vis a vis your to-do list? If you haven’t noticed this, take a day to watch your thoughts as you review your to-do list throughout the day. You’re likely looking at the whole list and experiencing a sense of anxiety at the enormity of it all. And let’s face it, all those things on your list, they’re not all going to get done today, right? So… more anxiety.

There is a little trick you can use to cool down the flames of this type of anxiety. I think you’ll like it!

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