First, as we begin, let’s start with opening our minds to the possibility that most of what we believe about anxiety is not in line with the true nature of anxiety. Expand your mind like a big empty room. Move the furniture aside. Open the windows and doors. Cling not to your current beliefs about your anxious mind and its intrinsic nature. Be open. Breathe deeply. Here’s some good news for you.
If you have problems, and we all do, there is a quick way to take the heaviness out of that situation. Lightening your problem will give you the confidence and mood-boost you need to solve it or work around it. In fact, if you do this often enough you may even feel like you’re living a 100% Problem-Free Life. (my friend Sneha’s free ebook link). So here’s what to do…. Continue Reading →
This is a guest post by Brook Bridge
At some point, and probably for everybody, we all have that sense that we aren’t doing anything worthwhile. We might get a promotion at work, spend time with our friends, make dinner, see a movie, have hobbies, and yet? It still feels as if something is missing.
My own epiphany that I’d been gliding through life without really experiencing came after I lost someone I really cared about. Suddenly, when the idea of my own mortality was impossible to ignore, I realized I needed to make my life better. I need to figure out how to live it fully, how to make it memorable, and how to spend my time doing things that enriched my life rather than just passing the time. Continue Reading →
Have you ever become offended or felt hurt by something someone said to you even though deep down you know that the person didn’t mean to offend you? So why did it offend you or make you feel bad? It’s because you paired their comment with your own deeply rooted self-judgments.
You had to make a leap in translating their words. You determined their “true meaning” to be in line with your own insecurities and low-esteemed beliefs about yourself.
Learn how to stop this habit in your life and watch your happiness open up. Here’s the key.
Do you have days go by where you lament, “Oh, I never get X done.” Or “I never get enough of X done.” Or perhaps “I never have time to get X done!”
Maybe weeks go by and you’re still saying this. Maybe – gasp – years.
Time does go by fast so it’s important that we prioritize what we want in life and take the needed actions to realize those dreams. Assuming that X is important to you, here’s how to make sure that you “have the time” or that you “get X done.” You CAN do it. I promise.
Whether you realize it or not you probably engage in negative self-talk frequently. We steal our own power with limiting questions and statements, such as:
- Why does this always happen to me?
- I’m always late!
- Why do I always fail?
- I work so hard and have nothing to show for it.
- Why can’t I lose weight.
- He/she always has to push my buttons and make me mad!
These are just a few. If you spend a day observing your thoughts you’ll likely find others. But fear not! You are not alone. You are not a loser. You’ve just had a lot of practice at it. And you can change the way you think. If you practice new empowering questions, you will be able to change your life for the better! You’re going to be amazed at how powerful this is!
You don’t need more information. What you need is acceptance of the truth.
If you find yourself constantly searching for answers to the same questions, you probably already have the information that you need to know the answer. For example, a common quest many people are on is “how can I lose weight?” There are a million books, articles, websites, programs, etc that will give you some version of the answer. What you need now is not more information, but acceptance of the truth about how to do it. Once you have that acceptance, then you can commit to doing it and finally follow through with action.
So let’s break this down further.
This is a quote from Mahatma Gandhi. It sounds good, but what does it mean? How do I “do this?” I’ll give you my take on what this means, how to implement it, and how it will benefit your life and the whole world. The Whole World? Really? Sounds dramatic doesn’t it. Well it is true! I’ve experienced it helping me and the people in my life. The key is to stay focused on it, and it will help you too!
A popular article here on my blog is “Relationship Gold” where I talk about the power and importance of kindness in a healthy and happy relationship. Equally important is the relationship gem of Being Present. This has the power to revive a weak relationship and keep a good one healthy. If any of your relationships are in need of some help, then please read on.
The other day, I took a wrong turn while driving in a parking lot. I immediately realized my mistake, but before I could wave “sorry” to the driver next to me, she was beeping and cursing me out furiously. If this had happened in the grocery store with a shopping cart instead of a car, I hardly think most people would unload that kind of anger. It would be quite shocking and scary if they did.
When I saw the look of rage on this woman’s face as she drove by me, it was still shocking even though I couldn’t hear her. I just wanted to say sorry, but she didn’t give me the chance. Then I felt angry at her impatience. And then I thought about it. I’m sure I’ve done the same thing to other people myself. *shame* In fact, I was doing it immediately to her. Maybe she was having a bad day.
The bottom line is this. Anger helps no one. For yourself, when you are angry it is the equivalent to drinking poison. For the person receiving your anger, it only creates either anger or sadness in the other person, and probably doesn’t get you the result you really want, which is what? What are we looking for when we are angry?