Why Am I So Aggravated Today?

I had a couple of days recently where for no apparent reason I was agitated and tired. I had enough sleep and food. I was in the middle of making a big decision so perhaps the agitation came from that, but the reason why is not so important. What is important is that I handled it all wrong!

I released my frustration by getting into arguments with family members. I allowed myself to focus too much on how I was feeling instead of counting the blessings in my life. And I “found” reasons for why I was feeling this way, piling any and all frustrations and challenges into one big pile, most of which had nothing to do with why I was actually feeling that way.

Those days passed and I feel totally normal. But it made me think about the lessons I learned and how I could handle a low cycle better in the future. Life is messy so implementing learnings is never easy or perfect, but having that road map will make the journey smoother.


Everyone has cycles of ups and downs in their life. Cycles occur within each day and over longer time periods. They happen for many reasons some of which we can control like blood sugar by eating and some which we can’t control such as hormone based cycles or sleep cycles.

The main thing with cycles is to roll with them and not to fight them. If you are in a high cycle, ride that wave. Get great work done and enjoy your energy. During down cycles when your energy is lagging, your emotions are more edgy, and you want to throw in the towel, just ride it out. Know that an up cycle is on its way. It is inevitable!

Riding Out a Down Cycle

1. Focus on the fact that your energy will return. Know and believe that to carry you through.

2. Don’t pile extra problems on top of your down or low cycle. It doesn’t help. It just digs your hole deeper.

3. Do seek a kind person to vent your frustrations too. Your better off getting it off your chest and crying for 15 minutes than releasing your emotions through an angry argument with someone.

4. Don’t bait an argument with someone. If your down cycle is related to another person then wait until your energy returns so you can discuss things with them more rationally.

5. Pace yourself. If you can’t get some rest, at least go slow or pace yourself until you can get some rest.

6. Get some rest. Whether it is a meditation nap, a real nap, or a good night’s sleep, do it.

7. Eat and drink something. If you haven’t eaten in a while, this may be all it takes to get your energy back up to normal. Low blood sugar and dehydration are major reasons for fatigue.

8. Write down your feelings. Sometimes getting to the real reasons and brainstorming some solutions can help bring you into an upswing.

9. Find a healthy way to physically vent your emotions like going for a walk or jog, going to the driving range to hit a few golf balls, or pound the couch or some pillows.

10. Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. It will pass.

Wishing you peace!

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  1. 1
    Jerad Kaliher
    October 10th, 2007 at 6:18 pm

    There are times where I begin to feel completely drained just like you are talking about. Normally it helps me to go to the gym and workout for an hour or two. My adrenaline gets pumping and when I get back I take a shower and go to bed. The next day I usually feel a lot better.

    If I continue to feel crappy I’ll usually take a good look at my diet and try to make some adjustments to cut out anything that’s outrageously bad.

  2. 2
    October 10th, 2007 at 8:45 pm

    it’s easier said than done. but yes, trying to handle these things properly will really make one feel better. crying it all out is better than arguing with someone about a small issue.
    i usually lock myself in my room and listen to music. it helps me a lot.

  3. 3
    October 11th, 2007 at 1:51 am

    So true. Instead of fighting our way through, we should learn to go with the flow. We’ll only make it worse if we keep on struggling. And no matter how hard hard we try, we will still end up drifting its course.

  4. 4
    October 12th, 2007 at 12:42 am

    Thank you for this. You know, it explains so much my aggravated mood once in a while. This is informative. Keep it up!

  5. 5
    October 13th, 2007 at 6:37 pm

    Those are excellent tips. I cycle fairly rapidly, and it’s very hard to admit that you’re in a funk when you’re in its midst. Often I indulge in behaviours that only aggravate my state.

    Writing down my feelings is the best way to climb above them. I don’t even need to find solutions when I write – just understanding my situation is enough to lighten my mood and restore some of my energy.

  6. 6
    October 13th, 2007 at 10:33 pm

    Lots of Water. B-Complex vitamin. Multivitamin. Magnesium. MetRx Protein Shake. Avoid caffeine. Naps. RTCW (or good movie) with the lights off and the sound Way up, on the hardest difficulty (ie: totally engrossing concentration activity). Whine to a friend who’s in a great mood. Write journal. Write fiction. Bug-out; go somewhere, do something apart from my usual routine. Try to identify any specific food cravings at that moment, however odd & eat that. Sometimes talking as little as possible helps.

  7. 8
    Embassy Suites Palm Desert
    October 14th, 2007 at 6:09 am

    they way I handle it is, I think that there are many people out there who likes to see me in a bad mood, and I decide that I will act like I am 100% okay and everything is just great, I am full of energy. and after only half day of acting this I can feel that the agitation is gone, I am not tired, and I am just good.
    Its important to do some real things to keep up.

  8. 9
    October 14th, 2007 at 7:11 am

    I’m guilty of picking arguments when I’ve got a bad attitude, and yes, it does make things worse.

    There have been a couple of times when I wrote out (not typed) the gripe I had with someone, and it really worked. For me, I would have to avoid typing it because then it would be so easy to copy the nastiness into a mailnote. Also, writing (for me) takes more thought. Maybe because there aren’t good backspaces in writing ;-)

  9. 10
    October 14th, 2007 at 9:16 pm

    Agreed; and dont make any critical decisions or engage in risky behavior when in a slump.

  10. 11
    October 14th, 2007 at 10:14 pm

    So true. Cycles are part of our lives and we need to learn how to deal with it so that we will not end up making it worse.

  11. 12
    October 16th, 2007 at 1:45 pm

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  12. 16
    How to Build Muscle Expert
    February 15th, 2008 at 11:35 am

    Thanks for the article. I find that when I am in a down cycle (which isn’t too often), It’s best just to keep to myself so I don’t take out my anger on others. Usually I’m fine the next day!

  13. 17
    Easy Yoga Poses For Everyone
    May 21st, 2008 at 3:51 am

    Whenever I riding cycle I feeling very tiredly. I have gone to sleep. So I am very lazy person. But your comments is best for me. I act upon on it.

    Thanks for your comments.

  14. 18
    Rubber Mat Man
    July 22nd, 2008 at 8:43 pm

    Yeah exercise at the gym usually helps me but I do a terrible job of getting enough sleep which doesn’t help.

  15. 21
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    October 8th, 2009 at 8:24 pm

    Exercising in the gym helps with mood, but I find that cardio helps more than weight training in that regard. Also, not to do it too late in the day otherwise you have trouble getting to sleep.

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    Rubber Flooring Lady
    January 29th, 2010 at 9:09 pm

    Exercise works for me too. My favorite is aerobics, but at the end when we do floor exercises on the rubber flooring it is hard to get back up. It is so comfortable and I’m so exhausted I just want to sleep.

  17. 24
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    April 17th, 2010 at 10:04 am

    you need to get enough sleep but if you are a busy person than you can’t get it.

  18. 25
    Rubber Floor Mats
    November 17th, 2010 at 4:44 pm

    As you say, it’s good to realize these things go in cycles. It’s frustrating to be annoyed. In fact, it’s frustrating to be in a bad mood, period. Thanks for the tips.

  19. 26
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    April 17th, 2011 at 9:17 am

    Thank you for this. You know, it explains so much my aggravated mood once in a while. This is informative. Keep it up!

  20. 27
    September 6th, 2011 at 1:44 am

    well, thanks for your posting, author, cycles are part of our lives and we need to learn how to deal with it so that we will not end up making it worse.


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