you see i am 17 and my girlfriend is 16 and to be honest i really beileve i love her but i just can’t feel it when we started to talk we became each others central thoughts and for the past 5 or 6 months she’s been the constant thing on my mind and we’ve been together for 3 months 3 weeks and 6 days and to be honest i was really head over heels for her from the begining but she would slowy do things that would hurt me not trying to hurt me but just by the way she is and honestly i know that me and her are similiar in a way but were both very difficult and complex people were diffrent in a lot of ways aswell but their’s always been a strong connection to us people often said we’d makea good couple before we got together and she passed thru what I’m passing thru were she was sure she didn’t have any feelings for me and u see to be honest i was positive i loved her but i went looking around the internet and it created a lot of doubt cause they talk about puppy love or rebound love and all that and it gets to me it makes me look at my relationship and say maybe it’s cause I’m to young or maybe i rushed things exaggerated em but see one thing is in almost all my past relationships or anyone i like’d i did the same thing show’d a little intrest then just gave up but in this relationship I’ve been fighting myself and emotions to stay with her for about a month now i was sure i should just break up with her but something in me still tells me their’s hope can i see the love in the relationship again? can i feel it again? i don’t wanna listin to the “break up” and the puppy love stuff cause i know i love her their’s just a lot of doubt and numbness in me can u give me your honest answer mam?

I am involved with a person that I can now see that I have given some control over my emotions. I actually find myself fighting against this issue with her. I feel that she is attempting to gain some type of control over my emotional and mental life. She even seems to be a part of my brain. The more I fight it, the more we have emotional skirmishes. It frustrates me to no end. She has a tendancy to say things to me that stirs up negative emotions. When it happens, I feel as if I am being drawn into some type of trap where my emotional reactions are being used against me. At that point, I feel that I have to defend myself, which makes me display negative emotions. Presently, the only thing that helps me is to feel open and free to express my true deep positive emotional feelings for her. When I do this, she generally, “indirectly”, rejects me. Especially when I make a “mistake” in her point of view. She takes the mistake (no matter how small) and continuously hits me over the head with it. I feel that she is trying to emotionally break me. These “mistakes” are generally normal mistakes a person would make when they learning how to love someone. I don’t feel that she is making the same effort. She makes very little effort at all and does not make any verbal relationship commitments. She seems to think that she is doing everything perfectly, but she is not. I think that she is playing a “an experienced” set of mind games with me. Now it seems that I am emotionally “acting” because I am demanding that these mind games discontinue. I need to re-gain control as soon as possible.

Does this sound familiar to anyone?

Anyway thanks for share and wrote.

~Thomas

Have a cup of coffee with friend and talk openly about issue. It will surely go away quick.

Thanks

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